Being a parent can be very difficult. You have many different obstacles to face and when certain things aren’t accomplished it can be very stressful. But there is one obstacle that can make being a parent even more difficult- loneliness. In this contributed post we have provided some tips for overcoming feeling loneliness that will be useful in relieving some of the stresses loneliness can add to being a mom.
There is no-one who doesn’t have trouble being a mom at some point or another. Even if you love your kids to pieces, it doesn’t mean you can’t struggle from time to time. For many mothers, loneliness is one of the biggest concerns. As your responsibilities change, your social circles do, too. Many mothers feel their social lives growing smaller, and the resulting loneliness can result in or contribute to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and other serious emotional problems. What can you do about it?
Community is out there
For many moms, the go-to centers of community, such as the workplace or school, aren’t there anymore. Or it may be difficult to find the people within those communities that you can relate to. However, there are growing social platforms for moms that can make it a lot easier to find like-minded ladies who know your constraints, your perspective, and even your needs. There may be opportunities in your local community, too, such as church groups, reading clubs, and other hobbyist circles. It can be a little scary putting your foot out but just know that there are plenty like you with just the same fears looking for people to socialize with.
Woman’s best friend
The role that an animal plays in the emotional wellbeing of their owner cannot be understated. They have been shown to largely have a huge impact on emotional wellbeing. If you can take on the responsibility of caring for them, an emotional support animal could make a difference in your life.
The main difference between an emotional support animal and a pet is the emotional support animal letter. Prescribed by healthcare providers like doctors, this allows many specific benefits to your animal, such as the ability to take them on public transport and keep them in rental accommodations. So, if you believe that your living situation precludes you from getting your own furry friend, you might have some options you haven’t explored.
Use your free time
Loneliness can greatly impact our self-esteem, making us feel like we’re important to no-one in the world except our kids. Finding volunteering opportunities and doing some good in the world can show that this isn’t true. Besides the self-assurance that you are making a direct difference in the health and wellbeing of others, you are likely to find like-minded, welcoming people in the organizations you help.
Learning to love the company of your kids
Although the above strategies should be implemented, it’s important to focus on what you have, right now, at the same time. Your kids can become your best friends and become crucial parts of your emotional support structure. Finding time to not only mother them but to spend time having fun with them can help you evolve your perspective on them a little.
Loneliness might feel like it’s a cycle you can’t escape, but that’s not true. It can be scary making a change to even an unfulfilling life, but it may be essential to your wellbeing.
Loneliness can add stress to parenting in many ways and it can also lead to anxiety. Many moms may feel lonely because of their current situations so it is important to find a way to get yourself out of this type of isolation.
When I had my first child I remember feeling isolated from my peers because I was now facing a different walk than them and I could no longer partake in the things they did. I had to learn to embrace being a mother and then I enjoyed the company of my child and other mothers.
Becoming a parent can change your life but it doesn’t have to isolate you from being happy. These tips have helped me as well as many other parents learn to be happy and keep ourselves from being isolated parents.
Has parenting ever made you feel lonely or isolated? What did you do to change your emotions? Share your thoughts below.