Becoming a mother is so exciting and there are so many responsibilities that come with caring for your newborn. One of the scariest things about being a parent is the unknown. With so many different things we may worry about happening to our newborn babies, this can often cause parents anxiety. But one thing I want to ask you, is new mom anxiety interrupting your sleep? If so, you may want to continue reading this contributed post to see how to make your anxious night’s a lot easier to allow you to get the sleep you need so you can function and care for your young one.
When we become new moms, most of us prepare for sleepless nights and stress galore. We expect to wake up for night time feeds until well into our baby’s first year, and we stock up on sleep before the birth like it’s going out of fashion.
But, then, something strange happens. Four months in and your baby can sleep for up to six hours without disruption. They’re at their goal weight, and your midwife advises you leave them be. Suddenly, all that prep for disturbed nights comes crashing down. You can embrace sleep again with open arms. You’re one of those lucky parents!
There’s just one thing; you can’t sleep. You put your head down, happy in the knowledge that baby won’t stir for hours. But, as soon as you close your eyes, the anxieties start. You imagine all manner of things, from sudden infant death to blocked airways. Before you know, you’re hovering over their cot and depriving yourself of the rest you need.
This is bad news for a few reasons, most importantly because it compromises your ability to look after your little one the next day. Which is why we’re going to look at a few ways to cure that night time anxiety and finally get some sleep.
Choose their room wisely
When selecting your little one’s room, choose carefully. If they’re three doors down and well out of hearing, is it any surprise you worry about them? If anything did happen, you wouldn’t know. You wouldn’t even hear them cry. Instead, select a room either opposite or next door to yours. If your walls are thin, you’ll even be able to hear them roll over. And, that’ll prove a vast source of comfort which could ease you to sleep.
Use a dual monitoring system
Few things are better than baby monitors for putting a mother’s mind at rest. You’ll want to invest in a standard video monitor. This will allow you to check your tyke from the comfort of your bed and can stop you from waking up altogether when you feel a flutter of panic. But, you might also want to invest in a smart baby monitor like the Owlet Smart Sock, which measures the vital signs your video monitor can’t detect. With both measures in place, there’s no reason for you to jump out of bed and lose any chance of sleep. You can lie back, secure in the knowledge that technology will let you know if anything happens.
Clear your mind of your child before bed
The idea of clearing your mind of your child might not appeal. But, if you want to fall asleep fast, this might be your only option. Thinking about your little one is likely your favorite thing. But, if you start those thoughts racing as you get into bed, sleep will never come. Instead, get into the habit of clearing your mind with something like meditation before sleep. Then, try to keep your mom-head at bay until morning.
Feeling anxious when caring for your child is totally understandable. I mean your newborn baby is totally helpless and you are responsible for providing their every need. With all the things that can happen to a child in their sleep and out of your eyesight is hard to imagine any of us not having new mom anxieties.
I remember each time my child was born I was anxious. Of course, with each child, my anxieties lessened but I still worried about them as they slept. If it wasn’t for the help of others and modern technology I don’t think I would have ever slept.
Parenting can be very difficult and like they say, it doesn’t come with a manual. Try your best to get into a routine of sleep that works for you. It is okay to worry about your baby but remember you need your rest in order to care for them. Try tricks to wind down before bed just like you would before baby arrived.
Try some chamomile tea an hour before bed. Read a nice book to help you wind down and clear your mind before bed. After baby has gone to bed take your baby monitor into the bathroom and take a nice warm bath. Do some yoga or meditation to help calm and relax you so you won’t worry as much.
New mom anxiety happens to the best of them but don’t let it deprive you of the sleep your body needs.
Have you experienced new mom anxiety that kept you from sleeping? What did you do to help? I would love to hear your experiences below!