Stress can cause a lot of issues in our lives and because of this, it can become hard to overcome. Our do we convince our self of what we can and can’t overcome? Stress is said to be our reaction to how we deal with difficult situations. So, how do we stop convincing ourselves that stress is meant to happen? Here are some common misconceptions of stress that may have you looking at stress in a whole new way. Keeping reading this contributed post to learn how.

When life gets too stressful, it’s natural to think that it is too much to deal with. In reality, a lot of people tend to fall into one of the most common logic traps. Yes, stress is challenging and difficult to manage. It can be too much. But it doesn’t mean that you should give up. Just because you are not comfortable with high-stress levels doesn’t mean you can’t cope with a tricky situation. Instead of convincing yourself that you can’t handle high pressures, you need to convince yourself that there is a solution. After all, the best functioning adult is not the one who can accumulate tensions; it’s the one who can get rid of stress.

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The soothing scent of lavender

Life is stressful, but you can keep a cool head

You can’t avoid stress. Whether it’s at work or in your everyday life, stress is everywhere. From a close deadline to being stuck in traffic on your way to work, it’s almost impossible to have a day that runs smoothly and perfectly. But the presence of small obstacles or frictions doesn’t have to become synonymous with anxiety. Contrary to the common belief, something that doesn’t go according to plan isn’t automatically synonym with stress. It’s the way you choose to react to it that creates tensions. If you find it hard to keep a cool mind, you can revert to a natural anxiety relief remedy that brings all the goodness of plants. Lavender, for instance, has been used for centuries as a soothing and relaxing remedy for the nerves.

Sharing your stress doesn’t reduce it

When you’re stressed out, you might accidentally spread your anxious mood. For example, it’s not uncommon for kids to get to suffer from stress issues at a young age as a result of mimicking their parents’ behavior. Take all the precautions you can to avoid turning stress into a contagious disease around you. For instance, start a healthy school routine with your kids, so that you’ve got everything under control and you can avoid the last minute panic. Also make time for yourself in your family schedule, so that you can set a good and calm example for your kids.

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Don’t share your stress; stay calm with the kids

Stress is negative energy you can get rid of

Ultimately, stress is an excess of negative energy. If you try to keep it bottled in, you will inevitably explode at some point. Instead, you need to think of your stress as a type of pressure you need to release. The human body has no pressure valve, but physical activity has the same effect. In other words, you can sweat it out of your system in no time. So why panic when you can jog it off?

quote from albert einstein

Stress doesn’t really exist

It might surprise you, but stress isn’t caused by a problem per se. It’s caused by the absence of a solution. Consequently, improving your problem-solving skills is not only something that will look good on your résumé. It’s also the best way to think outside the box and tackle your issue.

Think outside the box

The bottom line is that you need to stop giving stress the upper hand. You can cope with stress, and you can get rid of it. Stress doesn’t eat your energy away unless you let it.


Stress may not be something we can avoid but it is something we can change our reactions to. Most parents can relate to losing their cool in front of their children and not showing the best example of how to deal with stress. Children copy their parents and this includes their parent’s reactions. So it is important to be mindful of our circumstances and those around us.

Talking out your stress if one of the best ways to keep it from bottling it up inside. I can vouch how important it is to voice your issues. When you don’t it can build up anxiety, bitterness, anger, and more. All that negative energy puts a lot of stress on you. 

Remember stress is a physical or emotional response to a situation. So finding a solution to that situation will help you have a better response. Through exercises like yoga and meditation, you can learn to be aware of your surroundings and take control of your mind. Stress should not control your life you should control it. 

Have you ever felt overtaken by your stress? Have you heard of any of these misconceptions before today?

I would love to hear about it below!

8 thoughts on “Misconceptions of Stress – Stop Convincing Yourself You Can’t”

  1. I have NEVER thought about stress this way, so thanks a lot for bringing this to light.

    I am a massive problem solver and can get out of any situation with almost no consequences (most of the time, if there is they are very minor).

    This is probably why I’m hardly ever stressed out and happy 99% of the time. Great job on the article. I really learned a lot :)

    1. Hi Brandon,
      It is great to know that you hardly face stress. I agree with your strategy and I think if we are able to look at the solution to our situations we could then we would probably all have less stress. Thanks for sharing your tip and for your comment!

  2. Hi Melissa,

    It is true what you say about stress and how much harm it can cause to children if they experience their parents’ stressful behavior.

    The quickest solution I know to handle stress is deep breathing or, better still, finding a quiet spot and doing some yoga. Yoga is about ‘breath of life’ and it’s true that it helps to release stress. However, in addition to yoga, controlling the mind is powerful. It’s not easy to do, but something to practice. If we let our mind take charge and go on a rant about what we think is difficult, then that is how life will be.

    I like your mention of lavender. That is a relaxing herb which can assist sleep, and help towards lessening stress levels.

    1. Hi Valerie,
      I agree deep breathing and Yoga are the quickest solutions. The great thing about deep breathing is some exercises can be done anywhere so if you are at your desk you can perform some. Our mind is pretty powerful instruments and they can either cause us good or harm us. We need them to perform so stopping negativity and making sure we get the right amount of sleep is very important to our stress-life. Thanks for your wonderful comment!

  3. I definitely agree that stress is a contagious disease! We are the sum of the 5 closest people to us and if they’re toxic, we will be as well.

    There is no avoiding this and choosing how we react to stress is the most important thing in overcoming it in the long run.

    Thanks for a very good post!

    1. Hi Michael,
      I agree with you and yes choosing how we deal with stress is the best way to overcoming it. I am glad you found the post useful, thanks for the comment!

  4. Wow, Melissa, this is such a great post. Running after two naughty kids, managing home and school runs, I sometimes become depressed and angry, Thank you so much for this article, It has made me relaxed now and will help me in easing off my stress, You are right that stress is just a negative energy that we can get rid off, this is so true, huge thanks Melissa for all your useful articles.

    1. Hi Sarah,
      I am so glad this article has been useful for you. I have been in the same predicament. Mums have a lot on their plates but we can learn from each other. Thanks for the comment!

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