When was the last time you your significant other had a date? Like many of us mother know, when the kids come in the picture, the fun goes out the door. But, it isn’t supposed to be that way. Making time to be alone with your partner is extremally valuable. How might you wonder? Not only is it important for building intimacy between the two of you, it gives you the one on one time that you need. This one on one time is great for stress relief. But not all of us know how to go about setting up a date night and the whole idea may even be a bit scary, so we are going to go through some tips on how to plan a date night.

Keep it simple but sweet

“Where should we go?”, “What should we do?”, and “Can we afford this?” These are really common and justifiable questions. The fact that you have kids, you may be out of practice and reserved. You have to change your whole way of thinking. Just because you are going on a date, doesn’t mean you have to leave the house or spend a lot of money to make it enjoyable.

My husband and I had a nice quiet date night in the room watching movies. You can drop off the little ones to your parents or a good sitter and have a nice romantic dinner followed by some movies on the couch.

Want to make it simple and relaxing try the following:

  • Go for a walk.
  • Enjoy a nice bubble bath.
  • Give each other a massage.

Just because you are making simple doesn’t mean it should be too simple, having just dinner is not enough. Remember, the quality time together will make it just as special as a night on the town.

For Some Inexpensive Date Night Ideas Click Here

Be creative!

Date night with your partner by no means has to be boring. Use your imagination to think of some creative ways to surprise them. Leave an invitation for them to find at work with some details, don’t give them too much. For instance set up a theme date (relaxation). When they get home, have a trail of petals to lead them to the kitchen where you have a nice relaxing theme meal prepared. Leave a card with a basket on the table that says change into this. Have a robe inside and more petals leading to the bathroom tub. Where you are waiting with massage oils, bubble bath, and some bubbly. Switch off on planning date night and just try to make it something you both will enjoy.

For Some More Creative Date Nights Read Here.

Keep it about you!

Remeber this is you and your partners time. Don’t get trapped into talking about the kids or anything else stressful. Take the time to get to know each other better. Turn off your phones! It will bring you closer and help you to communicate also, you will know what pleases or displeases your partner.

For Date Night Communication Starters Read Here

Be consistent but not repetitious

I love spending time with my husband, but it wasn’t always possible at one point, especially when our children were young. Putting other things first became a bad habit for the both of us. Once we started making more time for ourselves, we became closer. You must make time for yourselves and stay with it. Do it once a week or at least once a month. Change it up so you don’t get used to the same old habits and it stays fresh. You will not regret your time together!

For Date Night Ideas for Parents With Small Children Read Here

Date night is very important to any relationship and planning it doesn’t have to be stressful. The time you enjoy together will help your relationship. Here are some benefits of having consistent date nights:

1. A date night is an opportunity to communicate with one another allowing you to understand each other better and your relationship.

2. Date nights can help with relationship quality because of the engagement in novel activities.

3. Date nights may rekindle your romantic spark.

4. Date nights may strengthen a couple’s sense of commitment to one another.

5. Date nights are a way to relieve stress. They allow a couple to enjoy time together while being distracted by stressful events. It is also time for partners to give each other emotional support they may need.

Just because you have a family doesn’t mean time we each other must be limited. Learning how to plan a date night effectively will give you many opportunities to grow closer together. I am close to my husband but I know we still have room to grow. Making sure we take time out each week will ensure we keep up with each other’s needs and changes.

If you and your partner are close it helps keep stress off of you and your family. A happy mom and dad make happy kids. So take the time out to spend with each other, you deserve it and I am sure your kids will be happier for it.

If you have any date night tips or experience you want to share I would love to hear about them below. Thanks for reading and as always, any feed back is welcome!


10 thoughts on “How to Plan a Date Night – Tips and Ideas for a Great Date Night”

  1. Hi Melissa,

    You know, we’re all so connected to our ‘electronic world’ that I really did enjoy reading about how to turn your phones off. I do believe this is super important. As a 30-year-old, I know all to well what it feels like to have a cell phone interrupt a romantic time whether it’s dinner, hanging out, movies or whatever.

    I loved the article, and I am surely going to heed many of these pieces of advice especially once I have a full family of my own. Thanks for sharing!

    What’s your personal favourite way to unwind with your husband?

    1. Hi Michael,

      Bad cellphone! Lol!! We can all lose site of what is important and  let electronics get in the way. My husband and I are big time movie buffs. We love horror, action, romance, comedy, you name it we will watch it. So spending time in front of a nice movie, however boring it may be, is all we need. I don’t like going to the movies like I use to because I want to be able to pause and rewind and my hubby is the same way. We also like to catch up on video games type together when the kids are sleep. We love playing games together! Thanks for reading and commenting!

  2. One weekend, our teenage son was going to go camping with a friend of his.

    So, I planned a luxurious date night for my husband and me. We were going to have a great steak dinner, relax in the Jacuzzi, and…do whatever else came naturally. After all, we had the whole house to ourselves and no one to intrude on our privacy.

    Everything went great!

    The meal was fabulous and the long soak in the hot tub sipping wine was so relaxing and romantic. We spent most of the night encircled in each other’s arms…talking…and snuggling.

    Since we had the whole weekend to ourselves, we didn’t close any doors or wear any clothes. We acted like the newlyweds we once were.

    What a blissful night of sleep we had together! At least for a few hours.

    But, around 3:00 am, we were awoken by a scream only to see our teenage son standing in our doorway looking at us…with a very shocked look on his face!

    It turns out that the camping trip had been interrupted because his friend had gotten sick and they had to return home. And, they dropped off my son on the way.

    Needless to say we learned that if we really wanted to have a “date night” like this again, we would have to do it behind a locked door…or wait until our son had begun life on his own.

    But, at the time, it was a wonderful plan.


    1. Wonderful example! I don’t think you have to wait till you are alone, you just have to be prepared for circumstances like what happened. Still have your date nights when your son leaves and make sure you don’t leave any surprises if he returns, Lol! Great story, thanks for sharing!

  3. How true! I am not a mother myself but I think this holds true for all couples who are busy with other aspects of their life. I like that you mention the date can also just be at home which is sometimes the best place if you’re worried about money.

    I will definitely be keeping these tips in mind

    1. Hi Melissa,
      Great name by the way, Lol!
      I think some would disagree and say you spend enough time at home so you should go out, but that is not necessarily true. Date night is about spending time together and not about how much money you spend. If you want to stay home, do it! Thanks for commenting!

  4. This is so important for couples! I love that you make a point to say don’t get trapped talking about the kids.. it’s very important to keep the “us time” about “us.” These are fantastic ideas, bubble baths can get a bit cramped but I always find that massages have happy endings! It’s funny how disconnected daily life and stresses can cause a couple to feel, and how quickly that can be remedied with some quality alone time. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Yea, we can take time for ourselves and still end up making it about the kids. I hear you about the tubs but if you have a nice size tub it won’t be bad or a nice jacuzzi. Keeping mom and dad happy has benefits for the children as well because the children will be happy knowing you guys are happy. Thank you for your comment!

  5. Hi! Melissa your site is very catching and it caught my attention reading your articles. When I saw your URL I was curious and very interested to take a look at your website and read it right away so I can get some tips for stress relief because like you I am a mother of two children. I wanted to give myself a time to relieve my stress that’s why I love your site it really help me and all the stress mom out there.
    Thank you for this website you created!

    1. Hi Celeste,

      I am very glad my site has been useful to you. Stress affects every one not just moms but mothers have a responsibility to their children and that is why I wanted to make a site that is beneficial to the,. Thank you for your kind words and thank you for comment!

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