When was the last time you your significant other had a date? Like many of us mother know, when the kids come in the picture, the fun goes out the door. But, it isn’t supposed to be that way. Making time to be alone with your partner is extremally valuable. How might you wonder? Not only is it important for building intimacy between the two of you, it gives you the one on one time that you need. This one on one time is great for stress relief. But not all of us know how to go about setting up a date night and the whole idea may even be a bit scary, so we are going to go through some tips on how to plan a date night.
Keep it simple but sweet
“Where should we go?”, “What should we do?”, and “Can we afford this?” These are really common and justifiable questions. The fact that you have kids, you may be out of practice and reserved. You have to change your whole way of thinking. Just because you are going on a date, doesn’t mean you have to leave the house or spend a lot of money to make it enjoyable.
My husband and I had a nice quiet date night in the room watching movies. You can drop off the little ones to your parents or a good sitter and have a nice romantic dinner followed by some movies on the couch.
Want to make it simple and relaxing try the following:
- Go for a walk.
- Enjoy a nice bubble bath.
- Give each other a massage.
Just because you are making simple doesn’t mean it should be too simple, having just dinner is not enough. Remember, the quality time together will make it just as special as a night on the town.
Date night with your partner by no means has to be boring. Use your imagination to think of some creative ways to surprise them. Leave an invitation for them to find at work with some details, don’t give them too much. For instance set up a theme date (relaxation). When they get home, have a trail of petals to lead them to the kitchen where you have a nice relaxing theme meal prepared. Leave a card with a basket on the table that says change into this. Have a robe inside and more petals leading to the bathroom tub. Where you are waiting with massage oils, bubble bath, and some bubbly. Switch off on planning date night and just try to make it something you both will enjoy.
Keep it about you!
Remeber this is you and your partners time. Don’t get trapped into talking about the kids or anything else stressful. Take the time to get to know each other better. Turn off your phones! It will bring you closer and help you to communicate also, you will know what pleases or displeases your partner.
Be consistent but not repetitious
I love spending time with my husband, but it wasn’t always possible at one point, especially when our children were young. Putting other things first became a bad habit for the both of us. Once we started making more time for ourselves, we became closer. You must make time for yourselves and stay with it. Do it once a week or at least once a month. Change it up so you don’t get used to the same old habits and it stays fresh. You will not regret your time together!
Date night is very important to any relationship and planning it doesn’t have to be stressful. The time you enjoy together will help your relationship. Here are some benefits of having consistent date nights:
1. A date night is an opportunity to communicate with one another allowing you to understand each other better and your relationship.
2. Date nights can help with relationship quality because of the engagement in novel activities.
3. Date nights may rekindle your romantic spark.
4. Date nights may strengthen a couple’s sense of commitment to one another.
5. Date nights are a way to relieve stress. They allow a couple to enjoy time together while being distracted by stressful events. It is also time for partners to give each other emotional support they may need.
Just because you have a family doesn’t mean time we each other must be limited. Learning how to plan a date night effectively will give you many opportunities to grow closer together. I am close to my husband but I know we still have room to grow. Making sure we take time out each week will ensure we keep up with each other’s needs and changes.
If you and your partner are close it helps keep stress off of you and your family. A happy mom and dad make happy kids. So take the time out to spend with each other, you deserve it and I am sure your kids will be happier for it.
If you have any date night tips or experience you want to share I would love to hear about them below. Thanks for reading and as always, any feed back is welcome!