If you are dealing with a debilitating disease than you know how exhausting your emotions can get. If you were like me than the diagnosis of your illness may not have come with open acceptance and that may have brought on many different emotions that you have had to endure. So in this contributed post, we will talk about how to cope with emotions that you experience when having a chronic disease. 

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When given the news that you have a chronic condition or a debilitating disease, emotions can be clouded, or vacant. In fact, there might be a numbness in place of any emotion. But as time goes on, you will run the gamut of thoughts and feelings. What will you feel when diagnosed and what can you do to ease the process?


You might get diagnosed at a young age, you might feel that you haven’t lived enough of your life yet, and as a result, there could be a feeling of resentment, that you’ve been attached down in your prime. But if you feel angry, this feeling will pass and you will learn the better way is at controlling this anger. Remember, anger is healthy to an extent, as it allows you to vent your feelings. But there are other ways for you to release this pent-up emotion, especially if it has an impact on the ones you love. Making sure you look after your wellbeing, and understanding the triggers of your anger will give you a better coping mechanism as you progress.


Physical pain. Emotional pain. These are both pars for the course. You can feel emotional pain because of what you are putting your loved ones through, and you can feel pain because you are unable to cope at that very moment in time. It’s all too much. Unfortunately, pain is an inevitability, but it’s something that can be managed, either professionally, or by understanding your own emotional pain points. A debilitating disease like mesothelioma can cause unbearable pain, but if you can get more information on the treatments involved that can help to manage the pain, and by getting as much detail about the illness as you can, then you are able to get a better understanding of the pain points.


And in getting a better understanding altogether, by obtaining as much information about the disease, you can feel more in control of the whole process, from seeking treatment, to coping with the disease altogether. You will feel a sense of determination to beat the illness you have or to manage the symptoms. Determination is something that can come in waves, but if you have days when you feel knocked down, there is always that opportunity to get back on the horse. And it’s the same with anything in life, we don’t always feel full of vitality and ready to tackle something, but the next day we will more than make up for that.


If you have something that is a lifelong condition, or is a threat to your life, accepting this condition can be very difficult, but it is key to enjoying your life. You can feel that your quality of life has been severely compromised, but the sooner you accept whatever it is you have, the quicker you can move on.

Thoughts and emotions can litter the mind, and it can be complex in that gray matter between your ears, but remember, the things you’ll feel, no matter how negative, will spur you on to create a positive. Whether it’s living with a disease or a chronic illness, you have the strength to cope with whatever comes at you, including emotions.



Living with a chronic disease can cause an emotional rollercoaster. When you are first diagnosed you may have a difficulty excepting this and may find yourself frustrated or angry trying to find answers as to why this may be happening. But know that you are not alone. 

Most of us will go into denial when we feel out of control about something or if we feel threatened or vulnerable, no one likes to feel weak. I went through the same thing when I was first diagnosed as an epileptic. But the one thing I had to remind myself was that denial was not going to change the situation nor was it ever going to fix it.

The pain caused by your illness will wear you down both physically and emotionally. This can take a toll on your life and your relationships. I was born with a birth defect in my spine and there are many days I am in so much pain I can’t function. It causes a strain on me mentally. But because of the help of doctors and those who love me I can get relief. Which helps lead to the next emotion…

Determination, my determination comes from those I love. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I am a mother and I can do this for my children and it helps make bearing the pain a lot easier. Plus, there are others that deal with the same issues as me that help motivates me to continue on in my struggle. So finding determination can help give you some peace but there still may be days you feel the other emotions and it is perfectly understandable. 

Lastly, acceptance is the most crucial emotion you can have when you are diagnosed with a chronic illness. Because the sooner you accept your diagnosis the sooner you can do what it takes to move on. I was only able to move on with my life and enjoy my family again when I accepted my condition and you can too.

Living with a chronic and debilitating illness is not easy but take it one step at a time.

Have you been diagnosed with a debilitating illness and you feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster? Is there an emotion you feel that is not on here? I would love to hear about it below. Also, if you know someone that could benefit from this article, please share. Sharing is caring!


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