Negative thoughts are something we may all struggle with. They can be very tempting and for most, it can be a great struggle with getting rid of negative thoughts. But with practice, you can actually replace negative thoughts with ones that can encourage you.
Types of Negative Thoughts
Anxiety is when someone worries too much or has overpowering fears. Some are diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder because they feel worried and have fears about many different things, even small things. Negative thinking can increase a person’s fears or worries because negative thoughts create negative emotions. The less you are in control of your emotions the more negative thoughts you can encounter.
Negative thinking is simply when you find the worst in everything. So thinking the opposite would be positive thinking. For most of us, it is not just simply a bad habit it is a bad addiction. Negative thinking is not just the thoughts that run through your mind but the visualizations as well. Do you ever play bad memories in your mind?
Sometimes we are struggling with negative thoughts and are unaware of it. Some common types of negative thoughts include:
Making Excuses – This is very common, and this is when you blame someone else or something else for your problems. Example: “I don’t have the willpower.”
I Give Up – Many of us have probably felt like giving up, this thought usually happens after another negative thought has entered your mind. Example: “It’s too hard to lose weight, I might as well give up.”
All or Nothing – This is the most common type of thinking and this is when you only see the world as good or bad and you divide your self into the category of succeeding or failing. Example: “I was supposed to walk 30 minutes today and I only walked 20, I can’t do anything right.”
“I should …”, “I must …”, “I have to …” – This is when we feel like we must do something or it will lead to guilty thoughts. Example: “I shouldn’t have eaten all that dessert, I am depressed now.”
I am Not as Good – This is comparing yourself to someone or when you blame yourself for not living up to some expectation. Example: “My husband lost 10 pounds and I only lost 5.”
Focusing on the Negatives – This is when you look at every situation or event in a negative way. Example: “Nothing is going my way, It is one disappointment after another.”
Pessimism – This is the tendency to see the worse in things and believe the worst will happen. Example: “Life is hard, I don’t think we are meant to be happy.”
Mind Reading – This is when you worry that you can tell others are making judgments about you based on their behavior. Example: “I can tell people don’t like me because of the way they are acting.”
How to Get Rid of Negative Thoughts
The solution to getting rid of negative thoughts is to push those thoughts out of your mind and replace them with positive thoughts. But how do you do this?
Because our emotions play a big part on how much of a grip we have on our negative thoughts, you must take a certain approach to help you unleash this grip. Techniques learned through Yoga and meditation can be useful in helping you not only fight the temptation of negative thoughts but avoiding them altogether.
The first step to helping you get your negative thoughts under control is acknowledging them. So instead of pushing them away, you acknowledge they exist, why you may ask? Negative thoughts as I mention are habitual, that means they will return. So by acknowledging them, you can have the power to tell them to keep moving right out your mind.
Understanding and Releasing Negative Thoughts
As you face stressful situations every day it gives opportunities for plenty of negative thoughts to flood your mind. You are now aware that any concerns and fears you have come from your inability to control the situation. You also understand that you have to acknowledge these thoughts and tell them to get out of your mind.
“You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair”. ― Martin Luther.
When you let go of each thought you can relax. This will allow you room to receive new thoughts. This is not something that will come easy at first. Because negative thinking is habitual, be patient with your self.
When you acknowledge a negative thought, for instance when you start to think negative about your bills, try to consider a positive change. For example, like what you may have cut down, then tell yourself, “I am feeling in more control because I cut down on some of my bills.” Focus on this positive information to help yourself stay encouraged.
Of course, it may be hard to believe yourself because you are used to your negative perspective but keep at it. A study showed that words spoken aloud can actually have a great effect on our minds.
Since negative thoughts are a result of a lack of control doing something that puts you in control is another way to help you replace a negative thought. When you are concerned about money, taking steps that put you in control make you feel less threatened because those fears are reassured by your actions.
Now that you know what important steps you need to take to help you not only conquer your negative thoughts but possibly avoid them, here are a few tips to make these steps easier.
1.Talk it out – Sometimes you may have an emotional issue that you need to get out. Talking these things out with someone can help put your situation in a new perspective helping put your emotions under control.
2. Take a walk – Sometimes our thoughts are a result of our environment. Simply stepping away from the people or place that are fueling our mind can help you put your mind at peace.
3. Make a gratitude list – Since most of our negative thoughts are comprised of things we don’t have, can’t do, and don’t like, we forget about the things we do have. Making a gratitude list of all the things we are thankful for, no matter how big or small, puts your mind in a whole new perspective. You have a lot of positive things already all around you, you just need to stop and think about it.
Negative thoughts can have a great influence on our emotions which have a great effect on our life. Finding the positive in things is not only effective in improving your negative outlook it sets a great example for your children’s way of thinking.
You may find it hard at first but be patient with yourself, there is no easy way to go at this and ever positive thought takes you further away from every negative one.
Do you struggle with negative thoughts? Do you have tips you use to help think positive? I would love to hear about it below.