Negative thoughts are something we may all struggle with. They can be very tempting and for most, it can be a great struggle with getting rid of negative thoughts. But with practice, you can actually replace negative thoughts with ones that can encourage you.

Types of Negative Thoughts

Anxiety is when someone worries too much or has overpowering fears. Some are diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder because they feel worried and have fears about many different things, even small things. Negative thinking can increase a person’s fears or worries because negative thoughts create negative emotions. The less you are in control of your emotions the more negative thoughts you can encounter.

Negative thinking is simply when you find the worst in everything. So thinking the opposite would be positive thinking. For most of us, it is not just simply a bad habit it is a bad addiction. Negative thinking is not just the thoughts that run through your mind but the visualizations as well. Do you ever play bad memories in your mind?

Sometimes we are struggling with negative thoughts and are unaware of it. Some common types of negative thoughts include:

Making Excuses – This is very common, and this is when you blame someone else or something else for your problems. Example: “I don’t have the willpower.”

I Give Up – Many of us have probably felt like giving up, this thought usually happens after another negative thought has entered your mind. Example: “It’s too hard to lose weight, I might as well give up.”

All or Nothing – This is the most common type of thinking and this is when you only see the world as good or bad and you divide your self into the category of succeeding or failing. Example: “I was supposed to walk 30 minutes today and I only walked 20, I can’t do anything right.”

“I should …”, “I must …”, “I have to …” – This is when we feel like we must do something or it will lead to guilty thoughts. Example: “I shouldn’t have eaten all that dessert, I am depressed now.”

I am Not as Good – This is comparing yourself to someone or when you blame yourself for not living up to some expectation. Example: “My husband lost 10 pounds and I only lost 5.”

Focusing on the Negatives – This is when you look at every situation or event in a negative way. Example: “Nothing is going my way, It is one disappointment after another.”

Pessimism – This is the tendency to see the worse in things and believe the worst will happen. Example: “Life is hard, I don’t think we are meant to be happy.”

Mind Reading – This is when you worry that you can tell others are making judgments about you based on their behavior. Example: “I can tell people don’t like me because of the way they are acting.”

How to Get Rid of Negative Thoughts

The solution to getting rid of negative thoughts is to push those thoughts out of your mind and replace them with positive thoughts. But how do you do this?

Because our emotions play a big part on how much of a grip we have on our negative thoughts, you must take a certain approach to help you unleash this grip. Techniques learned through Yoga and meditation can be useful in helping you not only fight the temptation of negative thoughts but avoiding them altogether.

Acknowledgement

The first step to helping you get your negative thoughts under control is acknowledging them. So instead of pushing them away, you acknowledge they exist, why you may ask? Negative thoughts as I mention are habitual, that means they will return. So by acknowledging them, you can have the power to tell them to keep moving right out your mind.

Understanding and Releasing Negative Thoughts

As you face stressful situations every day it gives opportunities for plenty of negative thoughts to flood your mind. You are now aware that any concerns and fears you have come from your inability to control the situation. You also understand that you have to acknowledge these thoughts and tell them to get out of your mind.

“You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair”. ― Martin Luther.

When you let go of each thought you can relax. This will allow you room to receive new thoughts. This is not something that will come easy at first. Because negative thinking is habitual, be patient with your self.

Thought Replacement

When you acknowledge a negative thought, for instance when you start to think negative about your bills, try to consider a positive change. For example, like what you may have cut down, then tell yourself, “I am feeling in more control because I cut down on some of my bills.” Focus on this positive information to help yourself stay encouraged.

Of course, it may be hard to believe yourself because you are used to your negative perspective but keep at it. A study showed that words spoken aloud can actually have a great effect on our minds.

Since negative thoughts are a result of a lack of control doing something that puts you in control is another way to help you replace a negative thought. When you are concerned about money, taking steps that put you in control make you feel less threatened because those fears are reassured by your actions.

Now that you know what important steps you need to take to help you not only conquer your negative thoughts but possibly avoid them, here are a few tips to make these steps easier.

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1.Talk it out – Sometimes you may have an emotional issue that you need to get out. Talking these things out with someone can help put your situation in a new perspective helping put your emotions under control.

2. Take a walk – Sometimes our thoughts are a result of our environment. Simply stepping away from the people or place that are fueling our mind can help you put your mind at peace.

3. Make a gratitude list – Since most of our negative thoughts are comprised of things we don’t have, can’t do, and don’t like, we forget about the things we do have. Making a gratitude list of all the things we are thankful for, no matter how big or small, puts your mind in a whole new perspective.  You have a lot of positive things already all around you, you just need to stop and think about it.

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Conclusion

Negative thoughts can have a great influence on our emotions which have a great effect on our life. Finding the positive in things is not only effective in improving your negative outlook it sets a great example for your children’s way of thinking.

You may find it hard at first but be patient with yourself, there is no easy way to go at this and ever positive thought takes you further away from every negative one.

Do you struggle with negative thoughts? Do you have tips you use to help think positive? I would love to hear about it below.

 

18 thoughts on “Getting Rid of Negative Thoughts – 3 Ways to Stay Positive”

  1. Very good post Melissa! I have been gone through this phase, I was not able to think positive even the things were positive but I was taken out something negative. I remain angry, peevish, all the time get ready to fight. One fine day, my good friend advised me to join yoga classes, in the beginning, I didn’t feel any change but slowly and gradually it really put a great effect on my behavior and on my thoughts and gave me an ability to control my emotions and negative thoughts. Yoga helped me a lot to remain positive. Very good sharing.

    1. Hi Sarah,
      I am sure we all can relate when it comes to the effect negative thoughts have on our lives. In your case I am glad you were able to find an outlet, such as yoga, to teach you how to get a hold of your mind and bring it into a calm state. Thanks for sharing and I wish you continued success!

  2. Good motivation here! I like how you point out how we can make the best even of negative moments and situations! What is your favorite thing to do to get rid of your daily stress or can you manage to not even get stressed?

    Nice post, nice website!

    1. Hi Manny,
      I have a really good husband who is really good at listening to me when I need someone to talk things out too. The other thing I like to do is breathing exercises, they help me relax. I use happify.com and the guided visualization works really well. I almost fell asleep one time, lol. Thanks for commenting, I am glad you found the information useful.

  3. I love the idea of “thought replacement”, because it’s exactly what we need when we’re all obsessed with some crap that isn’t helping us. But, we all know that ignoring our negative thoughts doesn’t fix them, so I like that you are advising a proactive treatment approach. Thanks for the post!

    1. Hi Penelope, Ignoring anything is never the solution truthfully, so why would ignoring nagging thoughts be any better. I think we already know we shouldn’t ignore things but it is much easier. I am glad you found this post useful and thanks for your comment. 😀

  4. Very insightful post. Your tips are great. I like the idea of a gratitude list. Here are a few things that helped me: getting negative people from my environment (there are some people you can’t completely disconnect from but getting far away from them helps a lot). I am talking about people that are constantly putting you down. Or one thing that also helps is not to share your dreams and ideas with these people. Another thing that helped me a lot is to celebrate small victories and create a visual (like a collage) with positive thoughts on it and your goals next to them.

    1. Hi Dira,
      I have learned over the years that sometimes it is okay to distance yourself from people if they bring you down, even your family members. You are right about sharing your dreams with certain people because they knock you down and take your desire from you. You have to put yourself around like-minded people and positive people. Keeping your goals around as a constant reminder is a great way to keep you on your path. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

  5. ooooo good post again. I find myself thinking negative sometimes and it would do me good if I practice some of your techniques.

    Though I truly believe I’m an optimistic person, I do find myself being pessimistic and it sucks. I used to make gratitude lists when I was younger. My first list was after watching the Law Of Attraction documentary but for some reason, I stopped making them. Thank you for the reminder I will start doing it once again because it really does work. =)
    Thanx for the good read, keep posting!

    -Drake-

    1. Hi Drake,
      That’s cool to know you were introduced to the gratitude list when you were younger and you are aware of the results it provides. I am an optimistic person but negative thoughts can still creep into my head so I learned to push them out immediately and not take root. With so much negativity in the world, I think it is hard not to think negative. You can keep it from running your life though. I think that will be a good idea if you start a gratitude list again since you know how. I wish you all the best and thanks so much for sharing!

  6. Such a great post you had. Keeping ourselves in a positive mindset is a difficult thing to do. Every day we facing a different kind of problem in our life and we will face a stressful situation. We definitely need a solution on releasing our stress and thank god, your post really helps by following what mention in your post. Thank you so much and keep it up.

    1. Hi Jaden,
      We do face different stressful situations every day which make it hard to stay positive but with practice, we can always conquer our thoughts. I am glad you found the post useful and thanks so much for your comment!

  7. Stress is a concern for many. The recommendations in this post are essential when dealing with stress. Excuses will not relieve stress, they are a coping mechanism to avoid confronting the problem. I believe with some soul-searching and facing one’s fears will help a lot.

    1. Hi Maurice, you are absolutely right, excuses do not relieve stress nor do they help with negative thoughts. I agree that soul-searching and facing your fears is a great way to overcome your stress and tackle your mind. Thanks for your comment!

  8. Great post, Melissa. It is interesting how our brain is able to do many things and among those the negative thoughts. Some people are more negative naturally and others not, but we can all train our brain to become more positive.

    I have to do it as well every time I go into the classroom as a teacher. I have to focus on the strengths of my students and not on the negative things. It is not as easy, but ever since I did that, my job has become easier. I see my students from a different angle and I even have better communication with them and they enjoy my lessons more because they see your optimism.

    You shared some great ideas on how to effectively change your thinking and become more positive by making a gratitude list, which really helps.

    Wishing you all the best,
    Oscar

    1. Hi Oscar, I agree sadly that some people are I am glad you found the post useful. I wish you all the best and thanks for your comment!

  9. Very good post Melissa. I also have negative thoughts sometimes and feel very depressive then I go for meditation because it gives me relief and helps me to stay positive. Thanks and have a great time!

    1. Hi Sarah,
      Meditation is great to help calm your thoughts and relieve any anxiety. I too like to meditate on things to help me focus and forget about negative influences. Thanks for the comment!

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